I was really shocked when Matt had planned the trip and Amy could not go She seemed to take great joy when the kids didn't go with Matt. I do believe Parents can disagree and not be happy with each other and their plans, but I don't believe You should let your kids know that. And I agee those Kids are old enough to help keep that house in better shape than they do. I am a clean freak so that hose would drive Me crazy and it's sad because it is such a nice house.