14 year old tried to hang himself

[ClimbingRose]

We have just received news that a young man very dear to our hearts attempted suicide. Sadly, he was almost succesful. His mom was the one who found him hanging. He has not woke up yet and has a significant amount of swelling that his physicians are watching closely. He is an avid baseball player and recently did not make the school team. Several team members and other students have been bullying him, making fun of him and calling him names. Because of them a young man now lays in a hospital bed and may never wake up.

This young man was the sweetest kid was always happy and so full of life. I sit here begging for your prayers for this precious child and his mother and sister. The pain in my heart and tears of saddness can not compare to what his mother is struggling with at this time.

[n/t]

Oh no. How terribly sad and tragic. He's only 14. :crying:

Prayers for him and his family. :rose:

[angellaw]

Praying hard that he may recover fully and prayers for the family & friends who love him so dearly also. :rose:


I HATE BULLIES!!!!!!!:cursing:

[TBIBeg]

:rose: You've got my prayers.


Yes Steph, I hate bullies too! :cursing:

[Mandysmom]

I'm adding my prayers as well. So sad, and he's just beginning life.

:sad:

[beespence]

I am praying for this young man's recovery...and praying for his momma and sister...such a sad sad story...you can add my name to the list of those who hate bullies :cursing:

[Nic99]

How very sad. I will add the family to my prayers and pray for a full recovery for him.

Nic

[Shells2]

How horrible..

This young man and his family are in my prayers...

[Postergeist]

:rose: prayers for the young man's recovery and for his family



and adding my prayers to those that were so mean to him, that their hearts won't be hardened and that they will be enlightened of how their words and actions affects others.

[kitty1182]

Prayers going up:rose::rose::rose:

[CelticDawn]

Love Light and blessings to this child.

We all need to teach OUR children NOT to be cruel and inconsiderate as this tragedy is proof of the destructiveness of such actions.


May he recover fully and go on to do great things, things greater than he is now able to imagine.

[incidentally]

Lord, hold this sweet child in Your precious healing light and surround him, his mother and sister with Your love.

Amen

[Krystal]

Lord, hold this sweet child in Your precious healing light and surround him, his mother and sister with Your love.

Amen

AMEN! :rose::rose::rose:

[Postergeist]

oh :sad: I see where CR was sent to band camp-

I hope she comes back or can pass on word to another poster to keep us informed about the recovery of this young man.

I was hoping for some good news on his progress today.

continued prayers and positive thoughts for him and his family.

[ClimbingRose]

It has been a very rough 24 hours. Tuesday night we almost lost him. As an adult ICU nurse I was witnessing neurological symptoms that are normally fatal. After he stablized we took his mom a basket of essential items b/c she has not left his bedside. The pain in her face ripped my heart out. There were no words. We clung to each other and bawled our eyes out.

He has remained stable long enough for the physicians to start trying to bring his body temperature up which could potentially cause him to become unstable again. I did share with her that she and her family are in the hearts and prayers of those who have never met her.(ALL OF YOU) There are simply no words to express how your friendship and support during dark time means to me. So, with tears in my eyes, THANK YOU

[Carol25]

I will also pray for the young man's healing and comfort and courage for mom.

[angellaw]

Thanks for the update CR...I still have them in my prayers and thoughts.

I wish I knew how to start one of those candle pages for him. Maybe someone here knows how and can do that for us.

[Shameonme]

Sending my thoughts for a full recovery for this young man and his family. Wish I could say more but I'm at a loss when it comes to kids.

[Pretty Leaf]

My warm wishes for him.

I wonder what will hapen to the bullies? Is there a "no tolerance" policy in the school? I hope the police were called in.

God forbid anything happens to this young man. Either way they should be charged with something.

But with the facebook mom bascally got away with murder much might not happen BUT I hope something does.

[Veritas]

:rose:

:crying:

[ClimbingRose]

My warm wishes for him.

I wonder what will happen to the bullies? Is there a "no tolerance" policy in the school? I hope the police were called in.

God forbid anything happens to this young man. Either way they should be charged with something.

But with the facebook mom basically got away with murder much might not happen BUT I hope something does.

I remember that case and was furious she got off, it's been difficult being in a very similar situation. As of now we still don't know all the specifics of who was doing the bullying, I do know some were on a school sponsored athletic team. No parent should ever have to walk in and find their child hanging and he had been hanging there long enough that there was visible swelling around his neck and over his face.

This young man was beautiful inside and out, always laughing, just enjoying life and he NEVER had a harsh word about anyone. We're going to go back tomorrow and replinsh his mom's duffel bag. I hate feeling so helpless and having that constant sense of fear in the pit of my stomach.

[Resty]

"Where two or more are gathered........"

As children of The MOST HIGH GOD......we ask in Jesus name for a full and complete healing for this young man and his family. Father God....this young man is a child of Yours....hold him tight in Your loving arms......bring about the miracle of a full recovery as only YOU can do. Give this family comfort and guidance during this time. In Jesus name.

[kitty1182]

Amen............

[debbadoo]

OMG, CR. I have a 14 year old and cannot imagine the pain that poor mother is going through. My prayers for a full recovery for this young man. You are so kind to make sure his mom has some essentials. She, I am sure, is not taking very good care of herself. :sad:


I will add that I ALSO HATE bullies! :cursing:

[drip~drop1]

:rose:
....:rose:

[Postergeist]

so glad that you're back CR- (as I did see something else under your nic, & didn't think you'd be back as we know you)

Still praying for a positive healing outcome for this young man.

I think you're doing a wonderful job for your friend by being there.

~Resty~

beautiful prayer, amen!

:smile:

[angellaw]

Still got you all in my prayers...God Bless You :rose:

:crying:

[ClimbingRose]

Only by GOD's grace and healing. When we feel and witness the power of our prayers and GOD's prescience it leaves one so truly humble.
Our precious little friend has not only survived but it doesn't appear that he suffered any cognitive damage. That in itself was a miracle considering the amount of time he had been hanging.

There is still concern about his emotional status b/c he is refusing to discuss anything related to his suicide attempt which is very frightening. To make matters worse the therapist who is working with him in the hospital is pushing to get him back in his normal routine as soon as possible which means putting him back in the very same situation that led to his attempt in the first place. We have since learned that it wasn't just other kids who were picking on him but also one or two of the coaches and I am :cursing: I've told his mom I would be more than happy to visit that school to discuss/rant this issue and have no problem spending some time in a cell. And when I went before the judge would be very happy to discuss why I went to jail.

As for the advice from the therapist I'm very concerned about their recommendations. This precious boy was doing more than calling out for help, he was determined and almost successful to commit suicide.

[angellaw]

OMG!!! PRAISE THE LORD!!!!!

This is wonderful news CR...Made my Day!!!!!:thumbsup:

One step at a time...baby steps..ITA with you, he should be put back into that situation again...

[Mandysmom]

So glad to hear the good news! I hope that the child is not thrown back into the same environment that caused this in the first place.

The bully coaches need their butts kicked but good.:cursing:

[debbadoo]

OMG, I am thrilled to hear this young boy is doing better...physically.

As for the coaches......I'd be STEAMING mad! I thank the good Lord that my kids had good coaches, who were encouraging, and in NO way a bully. I just cannot understand a "coach" being a bully. Where is it going to get them in life? Do they think it actually does some good to bully a child? I hope that these BULLIES, all of them, get a good swift kick in the arses from whoever is willing to do it, and I vote for YOU, CR.

[momof6]

My warm wishes for him.

I wonder what will hapen to the bullies? Is there a "no tolerance" policy in the school? I hope the police were called in.

God forbid anything happens to this young man. Either way they should be charged with something.

But with the facebook mom bascally got away with murder much might not happen BUT I hope something does.

Most schools have a no tolerance policy on bullying. The problem is that nobody wants to be a "snitch" because it get worse or they look like cry babies. I work in the school and have known several kids that absolutely will not tell on someone that is bullying them. It is uncool. So they get taunted when no adults are around. The other kids that see it won't tell because they do not want to be a "snitch". It is a vicious cycle. I always keep my eye out for bully''s. I will not tolerate it. There are alot of hurting kids.

[aproudmom]

Prayers for him and his family.:rose:

[Randi~lee]

Oh wow,how sad I hope everything turns out ok for him :rose:

[ClimbingRose]

We are so humbled as we have truly felt the presence of GOD. We are planning to spend some time with this precious family this weekend and I am inspired to share with mom this forum which lifted her family up and prayed for her when her pain was so instense she was unable. I want her to see the love of so many who lifted her family up to GOD. Stranger she may never meet but loved her and hers so.

Good Night, I have been blessed to meet so many who walk my path.

[fastpitch]

Let me join the prayers for this young man.

I always wonder if getting cut from a team will have an adverse affect on a kid. It sounds like the coaches didn't help in this situation.

I am a coach and former teacher and I do not see how he can return to this same school.

Hopefully, the coaches and team will learn from this.

There is an on-going trial right now concerning a football coach, who had a HS player die in the heat.

[Postergeist]

just popping in CR to see how your visit with the family went.

Hope things are going well for them-

Let that boy know he know has a whole bunch of cyber aunties and extra grammies on board pulling for him!

:thumbsup:

[RootBeer]

prayers :wub:

[ClimbingRose]

The young man will still not discuss it, his mom has become extremly involved with a suicide support group. Today, we just heard about another young man who successfuly hung himself a couple of towns over. And for the same reasons, BULLIES! The school and coach issue has yet to be dealt with. I've offered to spend a couple of nights in jail and share my reasons before a judge the next morning. I'd even make sure pastry's, juice and coffee was there for the newspapers. So if that's what it takes, I'll gladly pack my bags.

As for our your friend, please,please, keep him in your thoughts and prayers. He remains very high risk of doing this again b/c he will not open up to why and what happened that night.

Climbing Rose.

[debbadoo]

My prayers are still with this young man and now the family of the other young man who felt there was no other way out. I will reiterate......I HATE BULLIES!

[Annie143]

Lord, hold this sweet child in Your precious healing light and surround him, his mother and sister with Your love.

AmenThis says it all. Amen.

[Carol25]

CR, in time he will speak. Not only is is not cool to tell on others , there has to be sense of trust of too many people. If he told you, you would go to the school and have these students reprimanded. Then everyone would know that he told. Of course he should, but to resolve to go back to the same school with even more people teasing or bullying him ...no way.

Why give him the panic of facing others he knows? He needs a new school, new friends and parents who are in counseling without their child on how to handle this problem. The young man has to go to counseling as well, but privately. The young lad will talk to his parents when he feels he can. Don't push him into talking about it until he is ready. Do not put stress on him. Do not leave him alone. Watch medictions and aspirin bottles. Dismantle where the hanging took place and put something else there. Let him spend time at home with you until you know just what school the boy will be going. Give him time to emotionally recover.

May the Good Lord watch over this boy, heal him and bring wisdom to the parents.

[ClimbingRose]

CR, in time he will speak. Not only is is not cool to tell on others , there has to be sense of trust of too many people. If he told you, you would go to the school and have these students reprimanded. Then everyone would know that he told. Of course he should, but to resolve to go back to the same school with even more people teasing or bullying him ...no way.

Why give him the panic of facing others he knows? He needs a new school, new friends and parents who are in counseling without their child on how to handle this problem. The young man has to go to counseling as well, but privately. The young lad will talk to his parents when he feels he can. Don't push him into talking about it until he is ready. Do not put stress on him. Do not leave him alone. Watch medictions and aspirin bottles. Dismantle where the hanging took place and put something else there. Let him spend time at home with you until you know just what school the boy will be going. Give him time to emotionally recover.

May the Good Lord watch over this boy, heal him and bring wisdom to the parents.



Your wisdom and words touch me very much. He is still in a very delicate situation. He has started school, the very one that led him to hanging himself. I'm so outraged at the inpatient counselors decision on this. His mom has joined a group for family members of those who committ suicide. My prayer is that someone there will be able to reach out to mom and hold her hand. Things are still very dangerous because safety precautions have not been implemented and he still refuses to discuss with any of the therapists about what led him to hanging himself. Whenever, he's around it's sort like a pink elephant in the room. I continue to fear that next phone call. I realize this is a very personal family issue and have tried extremely hard to not cross any boundaries. But, I am scared and feel helpless. I want to be respectful of this families privacy b/c this is a very delicate situation. I simply don't know what to do.
Please keep him in your thoughts, he survived,barely, this time but the environment for this tragedy is still surrounding this child.

ClimbingRose