The son of Warhorse has passed away,

[Cornblossom]

Brett died about 5:30 PM this evening. He was sitting in the recliner but began having some pain. I gave him his pain medication then he got up by himself & got into bed to stretch out. I came into the computer room to give him some quiet but about 10 minutes later the dogs barked @ something @ the door so I walked in to see what they were barking @. I looked @ Brett & immediately noticed he was not breathing. I checked him, could not find a pulse or respirations so knew he was dead. I straightened his legs, arms & head then sat with his body for a few minutes. I then called the hospice nurse. I was here alone with him @ the time of death. She came to pronounce him. The police have been here & have disposed of his medications, we are waiting now for the funeral home to come collect his body.
Donnakay Church





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[court~critic1®]

So very, very sorry to hear this.


Warhorse and family will be in my prayers.


Thanks for letting us know.


:rose: for Warhorse

[kitty1182]

Oh My.....I am so sorry....

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My thoughts and prayers are with the family.

[TBIBeg]

War, I'm so sorry. I know that Brett is at peace now and free of pain.


My prayers are with you (((HUGS)))

[sofiesmom]

:rose::rose:

[Citygirl]

RIP Brett..:rose:
Warhorse, I am so sorry..

[incidentally]

I'm am so sorry, Warhorse. My deepest heartfelt prayers go out to you and your family.

[warhorse46]

Thank you all for the thoughts & prayers. Brett has completed the circle of life now, his work on earth is done. I was with him when he took his first breath & when he took his last breath.

[carolinablue]

I am so sorry war. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
:rose:

[Carol25]

Warhorse, my deepest sympathies. My prayers for comfort and courage for you and your family at this time.:rose::rose:

[incognito]

Thank you all for the thoughts & prayers. Brett has completed the circle of life now, his work on earth is done. I was with him when he took his first breath & when he took his last breath.

May you be consoled by the thought that Brett is now just a breath away.......and a breath is never far.

[WillowInFlight]

I'm so sorry to hear about Brett, Sending love and light to you and your family War.:rose:

[ViennaGal]

War I am very saddened to hear this. Please find comfort in knowing he is at peace and has his full health back. My love and prayers are with you always. :rose:

[mrsmcgoo]

I am very sorry for your loss Warhorse.... :rose:

[happy2bme]

I am sor sorry. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

[Hey Paula]

Thank you all for the thoughts & prayers. Brett has completed the circle of life now, his work on earth is done. I was with him when he took his first breath & when he took his last breath.

Dear Warhorse,

Please accept my heartfelt and deepest sympathy over the passing of your beloved son, Brett.

His life and death were surrounded by a circle of love which you provided. Brett will live in your heart forever.

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

:rose: In Memory of Brett

:rose: Thinking of you (((HUGS)))

[wanabegeek]

War, I am so sorry for your loss. Your words are beautiful, may Brett rest in peace. My prayers are with you and your family.

[msgatorslayer]

My sincere condolences to you Warhorse.:rose:

~THE CORD~

We are connected,
My child and I,

by An invisible cord

Not seen by the eye.

It's not like the cord

That connects us 'til birth

This cord can't be seen

By any on Earth.

This cord does it's work

Right from the start.

It binds us together

Attached to my heart.

I know that it's there

Though no one can see

The invisible cord

From my child to me.

The strength of this cord

Is hard to describe.

It can't be destroyed

It can't be denied.

It's stronger than any cord

Man could create

It withstands the test

Can hold any weight.

And though you are gone,

Though you're not here with me,

The cord is still there

But no one can see.

It pulls at my heart

I am bruised...I am sore,

But this cord is my lifeline

As never before.

I am thankful that God

Connects us this way

A mother and child

Death can't take it away!

*author unknown*

http://d21c.com/BigAppleMamma/POEMS.htm

[phylcore]

I am so sorry War,Shadoww told us last night about your son passing.
My prayers are with you and your family.Bless you.........

[kindeekat]

I am so, so sorry for your loss War.

thinking of you and yours today.

:rose::rose::rose:

[n/t]

I am so sorry. My deepest sympathies.

:rose:

[TennVol]

I am so sorry :rose:

[Jayne]

War...I kept our confidence...Now I can post it here. I am SO SORRY for your loss. You are a strong woman...Brett was a Strong Man.

Where eagles fly, War....Brett is there!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A_1vVms1rbM&feature=fvst

and Amazing Grace

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tlNpR7CkM-4

Bless you, War...and your family..

Jayne

[Shelby1]

Oh my I'm so so sorry to hear this. My sincerest condolences.

[5boxersmom]

I am so sorry. :rose:

[DDD]

No words explain the sorrow in my heart for you and all of Brett's loved ones. You are all in my thoughts and prayers. May Brett watch over his loved ones while he is soaring above!

:rose::rose::rose:

[Pretty Leaf]

I am so very very sorry for your loss. I cry for those left behind and rejoice in knowing that your son is out of his pain.

You now have an angel on your shoulder, He will be with you for all time is my belief.

Pretty Leaf:rose:

[kennedy06]

I'm so very very sorry to hear of your sons passing, Warhorse.

May God Bless you and your family.


:rose:

[canUCme?]

WH;
His earthly body has released his soul to be free of pain, fear, and uncertainty.
He will be with you always.
The love never ends.
With deepest sympathy,
"C"

[drip~drop1]

warhorse, I am so very sorry for your tremendous loss.:crying:
Please accept my heartfelt condolences to you and yours.
Your family will be in my Prayers.




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[warhorse46]

Thank all of you, your thoughts & prayers are very much appreciated. Jayne, Amazing Grace is one of the songs he requested be played @ his funeral & it will be.

[Beach]

I am so sorry for your loss, Warhorse.

[CHITCHAT]

I am so sorry war, to hear of your loss...I hope you and your family get thru this difficult time with love for one another and just know that your son is not so very far away. Keep your eyes and ears and heart open. you will see him all around you.

[sunbunny]

war - words cannot express how sorry i am to hear this. God Bless Brett.

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[Shells2]

I'm sorry for your loss Warhorse..

May Brett rest in peace..

[Scampi]

My deepest condolences on the loss of your dear Son, Warhorse.


:rose:

[Rowan]

So very sorry WH. Peace to you all. :rose:

[theal3]

Sorry to hear of his passing, but take comfort knowing you did all any mother could do and more to ease his final days , and you were there in the end, and helped him plan how he wanted the services. Stay strong, my prayers sendt your way for you and your family.

[islandgirl36542]

Warhorse~ My deepest condolences on the loss of your Son

:rose::rose::rose:

[tartangirl]

May you find comfort and strength in your memories.

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[samsong]

I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your son.

May you and the family find comfort and peace in the love that you shared.

[Veritas]

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[Spyder88]

Oh, Warhorse. My heart aches for you. I'm so very sorry. I can't imagine. There are no words, but please know that you're in my prayers. :rose:

[whitedove007]

Warhorse I'm so sorry about Brett's passing. My prayers are with you and your family. :rose::rose:
May Brett rest in peace.......his angels are with him!!

[Mandysmom]

Thank you all for the thoughts & prayers. Brett has completed the circle of life now, his work on earth is done. I was with him when he took his first breath & when he took his last breath.

Oh my Warhorse, this just breaks my heart for you. I'm so very sorry.

Brett will live on in your memories and always in your heart.

:rose::rose:

[Grins]

Thank you all for the thoughts & prayers. Brett has completed the circle of life now, his work on earth is done. I was with him when he took his first breath & when he took his last breath.
A most loving tribute for your son, dear friend.
Your words helped me to cry with you and with peace, grieving and joy.
As a dad I feel helpless.

Only a mother can know
as you do~

[Noahs ARK]

Oh Warhorse ~ I am so sorry to hear about your son. I know your heart is breaking.

You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.

RIP Brett....:rose:

[HansieDZ]

Oh Warhorse,you have my deepest sympathy. Praying for you and all who love Brett.

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[Meridian]

Deepest condolences to you during the time of your bereavement.

[beespence]

I am so sorry for your loss. I am hugging you in my heart:rose:

[SaraSidle]

Warhorse I am so sorry for your loss. Thought and prayers for you and your family. sara:rose:

[leprechankid]

My deepest condolences to you in this time of great difficulty. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

Blessed be from an oldtimer, LK.

[juliekan]

My deepest sympathies to you and your family.

I am so, so, very sorry for your loss. :rose:

[airportwoman]

Thank you all for the thoughts & prayers. Brett has completed the circle of life now, his work on earth is done. I was with him when he took his first breath & when he took his last breath.


(((((warhorse)))))

[FrankieBones1]

My thoughts are with you, DK. God bless Brett.

*roses*

[txsage]

~~~~~ Peace and Hope ~~~~~

[grammie/va]

My thoughts and prayers are with you Warhorse and your family. May God bless and keep your family entwined in his loving arms. There are no words to comfort you but my thoughts are with you.

[CindR]

I'm very sorry for your loss, warhorse. I hope you are surrounded by your family and friends during this sad time. :rose:

[witchywoman]

Deepest heartfelt prayers go out to you and your family

[warhorse46]

We just finalized the arrangements. His obiturary & service info will be posted @ this link later today.

http://www.claybarfuneralhome.com/


Good grief! That link prints weird but it worked for me. If it does not work for others it is Claybar Funeral Home in Beaumont, Texas.

[warhorse46]

Warhorse I'm so sorry about Brett's passing. My prayers are with you and your family. :rose::rose:
May Brett rest in peace.......his angels are with him!!




His angels have been with him since last Saturday. He started seeing them around the house out of the corner of his eye. He could tell me what they were wearing but could not see their faces. I knew then it would be only a matter of days. When a terminally ill patient sees the angels gathering, their time is extremely short. A few hours before his death he kept looking around the room & saying---I don't know what I am supposed to be doing. He was talking to the angels. For those who wish, watch Nancy Grace on HLN tonight, she is supposed to do a memorial to Brett.

[sunbunny]

We just finalized the arrangements. His obiturary & service info will be posted @ this link later today.

http://www.claybarfuneralhome.com/


Good grief! That link prints weird but it worked for me. If it does not work for others it is Claybar Funeral Home in Beaumont, Texas.

it actually worked for me, but you may want to edit the "b a r f" within the Claybar Funeral Home! :rose:

[warhorse46]

it actually worked for me, but you may want to edit the "b a r f" within the Claybar Funeral Home! :rose:



If I edit that out it changes the link & it won't work.

[Motomom]

His angels have been with him since last Saturday. He started seeing them around the house out of the corner of his eye. He could tell me what they were wearing but could not see their faces. I knew then it would be only a matter of days. When a terminally ill patient sees the angels gathering, their time is extremely short. A few hours before his death he kept looking around the room & saying---I don't know what I am supposed to be doing. He was talking to the angels. For those who wish, watch Nancy Grace on HLN tonight, she is supposed to do a memorial to Brett.


This gave me chills. I'm so very very sorry for your loss. I don't know who wrote this but it's one of my favorites.

Don't think of him as gone away, his journey's just begun. Life holds so many facets, this earth is only one. Just think of him as resting from the sorrows and the fears. In a place of warmth and comfort where there are no days and years. think how he must be wishing that we could know today. How nothing but our sadness can really pass away. And think of him as living in the hearts of those he touched, for nothing loved is every lost.. and he was loved so much.

My thoughts and prayers are with you Warhorse.

[sunbunny]

If I edit that out it changes the link & it won't work.

the announcement is up now......

ETA: i signed the guestbook.

:rose:

[ScoobyDoo]

I'm sorry for your loss. May God be with you and your family during this difficult time.

[J.D.]

I'm so sorry to read about the passing of your son, WH. I can't begin to imagine the pain of losing a child.

May God bless you in this time of great sorrow.

Dougie

[kitty1182]

If I edit that out it changes the link & it won't work.

Thanks for posting the link....I signed..God bless.....
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[kanzz]

Donnakay -

You have my deepest sympathy, dear friend. My thoughts and prayers are with you and yours.

Peace,
kanzz

[Mathis]

All my condolences, Warhorse.

[WillowInFlight]

the announcement is up now......

ETA: i signed the guestbook.

:rose:

Signed it too, I didn't realize that he was that young. :crying:

[Noahs ARK]

For those who wish, watch Nancy Grace on HLN tonight, she is supposed to do a memorial to Brett.

What a nice tribute to your son!

[Dovey]

My deepest sympathies to you and your family.

:rose:

[ViennaGal]

A fitting tribute to Brett War. NG obviously cares about you and your family. It was from her heart. :rose:

[WillowInFlight]

A fitting tribute to Brett War. NG obviously cares about you and your family. It was from her heart. :rose:

You could tell, and Dakota is a doll baby. Bless his heart!!!

[Tracian]

So sorry for your loss.

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this painful time.

:rose:

[Tracian]

His angels have been with him since last Saturday. He started seeing them around the house out of the corner of his eye. He could tell me what they were wearing but could not see their faces. I knew then it would be only a matter of days. When a terminally ill patient sees the angels gathering, their time is extremely short. A few hours before his death he kept looking around the room & saying---I don't know what I am supposed to be doing. He was talking to the angels. For those who wish, watch Nancy Grace on HLN tonight, she is supposed to do a memorial to Brett.


I saw that, I didn't know that was your son.

Again, so sorry...And yes, I know what you are saying about Angels, my in laws had the same experience that we witnessed.

Blessings to you and your family again.

[wanabegeek]

You could tell, and Dakota is a doll baby. Bless his heart!!!

He is a sweetheart, it breaks my heart that he has to go thru this. NG's tribute was so wonderful :)

[ViennaGal]

I welcome you to the family of those whose dearest possessions are with God. May you soon have His peace beyond all understanding.

I want to thank you for sharing your heartbreaking experience with me and I cannot express in words how I admire the courage and strength you have shown throughout. As you were blessed to have Brett, he was blessed to have you.

My sympathy to you, husband and Brett's young family.
Sometimes there are just no words, but I will keep you all in my prayers.


"Our Lord says: "Come to me all you who are heavy burdened and I will give you rest." ~Blessed Mother Theresa~
CW such beautiful comforting words. War has been a strong soldier of the Lord through this and Brett is now resting at the feet of our Lord.

[SKARDYKAT]

((((((dk))))))

[CelticDawn]

Brett was on loan to you and the world by God the Father.

He who brought him safely here took him safely back into his loving and eternal care.

God Bless you, Brett, and all who loved him and knew him here on Earth.

[annalyzer]

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[carolinablue]

Beautiful tribute by Nancy Grace.

[disneyfreak]

Thank you all for the thoughts & prayers. Brett has completed the circle of life now, his work on earth is done. I was with him when he took his first breath & when he took his last breath.

Warhorse, I just found out about your loss. Please know you and yours are in my thoughts at this time. :rose:

[Miditka07]

I'm sorry for the loss of your son, War

[~jomomma~]

i'm so sorry to read this. :sad:

i hope you and your family feel the strength from God to get through

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[warhorse46]

I welcome you to the family of those whose dearest possessions are with God. May you soon have His peace beyond all understanding.

I want to thank you for sharing your heartbreaking experience with me and I cannot express in words how I admire the courage and strength you have shown throughout. As you were blessed to have Brett, he was blessed to have you.

My sympathy to you, husband and Brett's young family.
Sometimes there are just no words, but I will keep you all in my prayers.


"Our Lord says: "Come to me all you who are heavy burdened and I will give you rest." ~Blessed Mother Theresa~



Thank you, your words are a comfort to me. I still have one more mountain to climb. I am going to speak @ his funeral, I hope I can do it without breaking down completely, becoming a blubbering, incoherent mass of flesh. I have to contact the funeral home tomorrow, they messed up the obituary. They did not put his picture & they did not list all of the suvivors.

[warhorse46]

You could tell, and Dakota is a doll baby. Bless his heart!!!


Dakota is going to be a pallbearer.

[warhorse46]

Thank everyone for all of your very kind words, thoughts & prayers, each one means a lot to me.

[warhorse46]

I agree with everyone, Nancy's memorial was a nice one. I was on the phone with her this afternoon for a long while with her asking me questions about Brett.

[bchand]

I'm really late in noticing this thread but please let me add my sincere condolences in the loss of your son.

I'm sure you'll do him proud when you speak at his service.

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[Veritas]

thank everyone for all of your very kind words, thoughts & prayers, each one means a lot to me.



(((hugs)))

[dojewo]

Warhorse, my deepest sympathy to you and the family. I hope a comforting thought is, Brett has no more pain. Hugs my friend

[warhorse46]

Warhorse, my deepest sympathy to you and the family. I hope a comforting thought is, Brett has no more pain. Hugs my friend


That thought does comfort me because the last 10 months of his life have been a battle to keep the pain under control.

[theal3]

That thought does comfort me because the last 10 months of his life have been a battle to keep the pain under control.

Yes, War the pain is over, finally. He is now full circle and resting peacefully. Your sharing over the last few months, have taught me a lot about what's really important in life. And a reminder: there for the Grace of God Go I......my prayers are with you and your family.

[coffee1950j]

My deepest sympathies to you and your family.

May he rest in peace.

:rose:

[Jayne]

I agree with everyone, Nancy's memorial was a nice one. I was on the phone with her this afternoon for a long while with her asking me questions about Brett.

War...I couldn't get the CNN...do you have a copy? I'd love to see it..you are very special WAR..

Jayne

prayers and love to you...

[My 2 Cents]

:rose: "To Live In Hearts We Leave Behind . . . Is Not To Die" - Thomas Campbell

WARHORSE . . .
I am so, so, so very sorry to hear that your son passed away. Although I am at a loss for words that could possibly comfort a loving Mom who has just lost her son - Please find comfort in knowing how many homes are keeping you, your family and Brett in their prayers and asking God to give you the strength to get through this difficult time and some peace, knowing your son is without any pain and in a wonderful and loving place.

I would like to share with you a poem about dying, that brought me comfort, after my Mom recently passed away. I hope it will provide some comfort for you as well, as it reminded me that when a loved one passes, he may be gone from "view", but only in our eyes - like a ship on the horizon, he has disappeared from our sight but has arrived somewhere else, another destination, where he is being welcomed with open, and loving arms.

With Love & Concern - - My 2 Cents

I am standing upon the seashore.

A ship at my side spreads her white sails to the ocean.

She is an object of beauty and strength. I stand and watch her until at length she hangs like a speck of white cloud just where the sea and sky come to mingle with each other.

Then someone at my side says: “There, she is gone!”

“Gone where?”

Gone from my sight. That is all.

Her diminished size is in me, not in her.

And just at the moment when someone at my side says: “There, she is gone!” There are other eyes watching her coming, and other voices ready to take up the glad shout: . . . “Here she comes!”

That is dying

Henry Van Dykke

[SavannahStar]

I agree with everyone, Nancy's memorial was a nice one. I was on the phone with her this afternoon for a long while with her asking me questions about Brett.

I heard it last night and I thought, "Gosh I think that's our Warhorse!"

I'm so sorry for your loss, Warhorse. Please accept my deepest sympathy and thoughts and prayers. God bless. :rose:

[bchand]

War...I couldn't get the CNN...do you have a copy? I'd love to see it..you are very special WAR..

Jayne

prayers and love to you...

Morning Jayne - I don't know if there is a video copy anywhere but this is from the transcript - very very nice.

GRACE: Very quickly, everyone, quick break. We`re taking your calls. Our thoughts and prayers to the family of a wonderful Texas friend of show, Brett Church. He lost his life at just 38. An expert barbecuer. He loves new recipes, restoring muscle cars, especially his own classic souped-up Mustang.

Huge animal lover. Rescued dozens of cats and dogs. His greatest joy, his son and his wife. He leaves behind a grieving mother, Donna Kay, who is a personal friend of our show. And widow Melanie, 17-year-old son Dakota.

After a brave, brave battle, Brett Church, good night, friend.
(COMMERCIAL BREAK)

http://transcripts.cnn.com/TRANSCRIPTS/0907/07/ng.01.html

[desmom]

Warhorse I am so sorry. I send prayers, courage and hugs to help you get through this difficult time.

:rose:

[n/t]

Morning Jayne - I don't know if there is a video copy anywhere but this is from the transcript - very very nice.

GRACE: Very quickly, everyone, quick break. We`re taking your calls. Our thoughts and prayers to the family of a wonderful Texas friend of show, Brett Church. He lost his life at just 38. An expert barbecuer. He loves new recipes, restoring muscle cars, especially his own classic souped-up Mustang.

Huge animal lover. Rescued dozens of cats and dogs. His greatest joy, his son and his wife. He leaves behind a grieving mother, Donna Kay, who is a personal friend of our show. And widow Melanie, 17-year-old son Dakota.

After a brave, brave battle, Brett Church, good night, friend.
(COMMERCIAL BREAK)

http://transcripts.cnn.com/TRANSCRIPTS/0907/07/ng.01.html

Thanks for posting that bchand. I was flipping back and forth last night from CNN and HLN and missed it.

So young. :sad:


May God Bless the family and all those who will miss him dearly. :rose:

[GossipGirl]

I'm so sorry to read this. We have posted together back when I was Garden Girl a few times, but I don't know you well at all.
You are all in my thoughts and prayers during this difficult time.
O My. The hardest to bear is given to a certain few.
Bless you.
GG

[koawally]

Dearest Donnakay & Family
Brett's wife Melanie & Dakota
My deepest sympathies to you
and your family.
♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥‏
Tears~~God puts a tear in
your eye...so that you can
see a rainbow...
In your sorrow may you find
peace, hope and rainbows in
all your tomorrows.
Blessings and {{{ hugs}}}
to you all~~~~Always‏
♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥

[warhorse46]

War...I couldn't get the CNN...do you have a copy? I'd love to see it..you are very special WAR..

Jayne

prayers and love to you...


Nancy is on HLN not CNN. She is supposed to be sending me a copy of the show.

[warhorse46]

:rose: "To Live In Hearts We Leave Behind . . . Is Not To Die" - Thomas Campbell

WARHORSE . . .
I am so, so, so very sorry to hear that your son passed away. Although I am at a loss for words that could possibly comfort a loving Mom who has just lost her son - Please find comfort in knowing how many homes are keeping you, your family and Brett in their prayers and asking God to give you the strength to get through this difficult time and some peace, knowing your son is without any pain and in a wonderful and loving place.

I would like to share with you a poem about dying, that brought me comfort, after my Mom recently passed away. I hope it will provide some comfort for you as well, as it reminded me that when a loved one passes, he may be gone from "view", but only in our eyes - like a ship on the horizon, he has disappeared from our sight but has arrived somewhere else, another destination, where he is being welcomed with open, and loving arms.

With Love & Concern - - My 2 Cents

I am standing upon the seashore.

A ship at my side spreads her white sails to the ocean.

She is an object of beauty and strength. I stand and watch her until at length she hangs like a speck of white cloud just where the sea and sky come to mingle with each other.

Then someone at my side says: “There, she is gone!”

“Gone where?”

Gone from my sight. That is all.

Her diminished size is in me, not in her.

And just at the moment when someone at my side says: “There, she is gone!” There are other eyes watching her coming, and other voices ready to take up the glad shout: . . . “Here she comes!”

That is dying

Henry Van Dykke


Thank you. Beautiful poen with a huge amount of meaning to me.

[ahlou3]

Warhorse, please be strong knowing he is no longer suffering and is in a better place.
:rose:

[SusiePMcD]

May you find peace that your son is now surrounded by celestial air

and holding God’s hand…my thoughts and prayers are with you and

your family.

[angellaw]

Warhorse, I have you in my thoughts an dprayers. may God hold you tightly in these days of sadness. I know Brett is in a better place and no more pain...may her rest in Peace.

Love to you and yours.


Steph:rose:

[BorderCollieMom]

Warhorse...Please know you and yours are in my prayers. Im so sorry for your loss.

[Soupy]

I am so deeply sorry to hear of your tremendous loss.

PLEASE Know that You and your Family are in my prayers at this Time of great sorrow.

Heart breaking news... my CTV Buddy. :sad:

I hope that you remember, as it's been awhile.

WE WENT THROUGH SOME GREAT MEMORIES HERE ON THIS BOARD TOGETHER. TRIALS AND TRIBULATIONS.

I can never forget You! Warm hugs and Best Wishes to You and Yours- my Friend. xo

[Dunlurken]

Aw Man.... I'm just shocked. War, you are in my prayers. He's in the Arms of the Angels now, Walking in fields of Gold.

I'm just stunned. :rose:

[whitedove007]

Dakota is going to be a pallbearer.



God bless Dakota!

[Nic99]

My deepest sympathies, thoughts and prayers to you and your family Warhorse.

[Cornblossom]

All Is Well
Death is nothing at all,
I have only slipped into the next room
I am I and you are you
Whatever we were to each other, that we are still.
Call me by my old familiar name,
Speak to me in the easy way which you always used
Put no difference in your tone,
Wear no forced air of solemnity or sorrow
Laugh as we always laughed at the little jokes we enjoyed together.
Play, smile, think of me, pray for me.
Let my name be ever the household world that it always was,
Let it be spoken without effect, without the trace of shadow on it.
Life means all that it ever meant.
It it the same as it ever was, there is unbroken continuity.
Why should I be out of mind because I am out of sight?
I am waiting for you, for an interval, somewhere very near,
Just around the corner.
All is well.
Anonymous
http://www.ifishoulddie.co.uk/poems-words-of-comfort-c50.html

[CANDYKISSES]

Warhorse, may you hold tight to your faith and strength, as you prepare to send your son off to rest with his God and the Angels; on the heels of his mother's words of love and adoration. :rose:

~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

For Dakota, I was watching Anderson Cooper last night and was touched by both he and Larry King when they spoke about being without their fathers. I pray Dakota has many memories to fill his heart with and that you will help him keep them close. :wub:

~~~To a fatherless child, all things are possible and nothing is safe.~~~ Mary Gordon

~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

Lastly....
For your family, something I often read on the subject of death and our loved ones.

~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

Death is really nothing at all.

I have only slipped away into the next room.

I am I and you are you.

Whatever we were to each other,

That we are still.

Call me by my old familiar name.

Speak to me in the easy way you always used.

Put no difference into your tone.

Wear no forced air of solemnity or sorrow.

Laugh as we always laughed

At the little jokes we always enjoyed together.

Play, smile, think of me, pray for me.

Let my name be ever the household word that it always was.

Let it be spoken without effort,

Without the ghost of a shadow in it.

Life means all that it ever meant.

It is the same as it ever was.

There is absolute unbroken continuity.

What is death but a negligible accident?

Why should I be out of mind?

Because I am out of sight?

I am waiting for you for an interval

Somewhere very near

Just around the corner

All is well.

Nothing is past; nothing is lost

One brief moment and all will be as it was before.

How we shall laugh at the trouble of parting when we meet again!

~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

Canon Henry Scott-Holland, 1847-1918, Canon of St Paul's Cathedral

God Bless you and your family today and always. Please accept my condolences on the loss of Brett. Sincerely, Candy

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DBbKAtsKcDM

[SavannahStar]

All Is Well
Death is nothing at all,
I have only slipped into the next room
I am I and you are you
Whatever we were to each other, that we are still.
Call me by my old familiar name,
Speak to me in the easy way which you always used
Put no difference in your tone,
Wear no forced air of solemnity or sorrow
Laugh as we always laughed at the little jokes we enjoyed together.
Play, smile, think of me, pray for me.
Let my name be ever the household world that it always was,
Let it be spoken without effect, without the trace of shadow on it.
Life means all that it ever meant.
It it the same as it ever was, there is unbroken continuity.
Why should I be out of mind because I am out of sight?
I am waiting for you, for an interval, somewhere very near,
Just around the corner.
All is well.
Anonymous
http://www.ifishoulddie.co.uk/poems-words-of-comfort-c50.html


Wow just wow. I've never heard that before. Beautiful. Unbelievably beautiful.

[Jayne]

Dakota...17..is going to be a warrior...brave knight...beloved son, War..

He will never forget this moment..it is sad..but it is a "sending off" moment, War. It is a moment of Wonderment...challenge..respect.

He will become even a better man because of it..I do think..and he's already a great 17 year old man...from what you've told me.

God/Spirits Bless him, War...he is sending his father to a place where he can meet him..WHEN the time comes. Isn't that what it's about?

I think you have one of the most strongest families ..you surround yourself with love/family/food recipies (OK I'm making a joke)..You are from the true American Family...you are!

You'll be ok...you will.it will take time.but when you look into Dakota's eyes..you'll see it..it's there..LOVE and dedication. My prayers are still there for you, War...always will be.

jmo
J

[WillowInFlight]

Wow just wow. I've never heard that before. Beautiful. Unbelievably beautiful.

I was thinking the same thing. Words that one day we will all need.

Prayers always going out to you War, I for one will be with you Friday, if only in spirit. Please know that even after Friday so many of us will be here to share and grieve in your pain.

[Noahs ARK]

Warhorse ~ I just wanted you to know I'm thinking of you. :wub:

[Postergeist]

:rose:

my condolences Warhorse to you and your family on the loss of your beloved son

Through cloud and sunshine, Lord, abide with me

sending you my thoughts and prayers

[Jayne]

There is little physical or emotional comfort from grief. Part of living is surviving the death of a loved one. No matter how we try we can’t get around the aching, the pining and the loneliness. We also experience anger, both at God and the one who has left us. Depression, anxiety, and guilt are common feelings for those in grief.
During these times, it would be so easy to pull away from God and blame Him for the pain we feel. His shoulders are big enough for our anger so rail away at Him if it helps for a bit. But take the time to reflect on the comfort He offers us, too. We will be reunited:
For if we believe that Jesus died and rose again, even so God will bring with Him those who have fallen asleep in Jesus. 15 For this we say to you by the word of the Lord, that we who are alive, and remain until the coming of the Lord, shall not precede those who have fallen asleep. For the Lord Himself will descend from heaven with a shout, with the voice of the archangel, and with the trumpet of God; and the dead in Christ shall rise first. Then we who are alive and remain shall be caught up together with them in the clouds to meet the Lord in the air, and thus we shall always be with the Lord. “ 1 Thessalonians 4:14-17''

My dear sweet friend...from a very dear sweet friend and I..

You will be OK War...it will take time..

Love..from us both...

[warhorse46]

Everyone's words are such a comfort to me & the poem is awesome. Thank you. The funeral home got Brett's picture posted on their site but still has not gotten the corrections on the missing suvivors. If anyone cares to see the photo go here.

http://www.claybarfuneralhome.com/_mgxroot/page_10732.php?id=686994

[sunbunny]

Everyone's words are such a comfort to me & the poem is awesome. Thank you. The funeral home got Brett's picture posted on their site but still has not gotten the corrections on the missing suvivors. If anyone cares to see the photo go here.

http://www.claybarfuneralhome.com/_mgxroot/page_10732.php?id=686994

he's beautiful, hon. :rose:

we're all still thinking of you and your family. :wub:

[Ionmhainn]

I don't know who wrote the following, but I found it very comforting and true.

"The tide recedes but leaves bright seashells on the sand,
The sun goes down but gentle warmth still lingers on the land.
The music stops and yet it echoes on in sweet refrains....
For every joy that passes, something beautiful remains."

God Bless. :rose:

[summit]

Dear Warhorse I am so sorry to hear about Your Wonderful Son My Prayers are with You and Your Family.

[panache]

I just read the news Warhorse. I am so sorry to hear of your loss. My thoughts are with you as you embark on this sad journey.:rose:

[snowshuze]

:rose:



Thinking of you...

[Dunlurken]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YkKue_MEnkk&feature=related

I hope this link works. It's for Donna and her family. RIP Brett. :rose:

[warhorse46]

I don't know who wrote the following, but I found it very comforting and true.

"The tide recedes but leaves bright seashells on the sand,
The sun goes down but gentle warmth still lingers on the land.
The music stops and yet it echoes on in sweet refrains....
For every joy that passes, something beautiful remains."

God Bless. :rose:


Thank you, that is beautiful.

[warhorse46]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YkKue_MEnkk&feature=related

I hope this link works. It's for Donna and her family. RIP Brett. :rose:




It worked & is beautiful.

[Brattnt]

I'm so sorry Warhorse...God bless...:rose:

[Keno]

WH - I did sign Brett's guestbook but I wanted to tell your grandson how sorry I am about his father. So very sorry. Dakota, remember all the wonderful memories you had with your dad and keep them close to your heart.

Again, my heartfelt condolences to the entire family~

[warhorse46]

WH - I did sign Brett's guestbook but I wanted to tell your grandson how sorry I am about his father. So very sorry. Dakota, remember all the wonderful memories you had with your dad and keep them close to your heart.

Again, my heartfelt condolences to the entire family~


Thank you. The day Brett died & we told Dakota of it we gave Dakota a picture of Brett. To this day Dakota has not let go of that picture. He carries it with him all day & sleeps with it @ night.

[angellaw]

Thank you. The day Brett died & we told Dakota of it we gave Dakota a picture of Brett. To this day Dakota has not let go of that picture. He carries it with him all day & sleeps with it @ night.

:sad:
'
'
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I signed Brett's guestbook...

give Dakota a BIG {{{{HUGGERS}}}} from me please.

[DebinNv]

I am so sorry Warhorse. Please know you and your family will be in my prayers.

[Noahs ARK]

Everyone's words are such a comfort to me & the poem is awesome. Thank you. The funeral home got Brett's picture posted on their site but still has not gotten the corrections on the missing suvivors. If anyone cares to see the photo go here.

http://www.claybarfuneralhome.com/_mgxroot/page_10732.php?id=686994

Bumping the link to Brett's photo and guestbook.

[Keno]

Thank you. The day Brett died & we told Dakota of it we gave Dakota a picture of Brett. To this day Dakota has not let go of that picture. He carries it with him all day & sleeps with it @ night.


Dear WH - I feel so badly for you and your family. We're suppose to go before our children - My mother-in-law whom I adore and love lost 2 sons and it's still hard for her to this day. Make sure you hang on tight to those memories and to Dakota. More importantly, you need to take care of yourself WH. You know that though :} God is watching over all of you. If you ever need to just talk - feel free to send me a message. I mean that war ...I check in here almost every day to read.

[Keno]

Everyone's words are such a comfort to me & the poem is awesome. Thank you. The funeral home got Brett's picture posted on their site but still has not gotten the corrections on the missing suvivors. If anyone cares to see the photo go here.

http://www.claybarfuneralhome.com/_mgxroot/page_10732.php?id=686994

Keeping this bumped and at the top...

[ViennaGal]

Thank you. The day Brett died & we told Dakota of it we gave Dakota a picture of Brett. To this day Dakota has not let go of that picture. He carries it with him all day & sleeps with it @ night.

God love his heart. He is included in my prayers. This will be a huge loss for Dakota and Melanie as well, but you shouldn't have to let your children go before you. God has a plan just for Brett. That's the only comfort you can find in company with people who care. :rose:

[walton]

Warhorse my friend my heart aches for you and yours. Bretts spirit will light the skies.

I wish I was better at putting words on paper. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Love Walton


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NtNuELl5he0

Amazing Grace (Inuit)

[sunstar]

:rose: My thoughts and prayers for you, Warhorse ~ may God bless and protect you, as Brett is with Him now. :rose:

[SaraSidle]

Everyone's words are such a comfort to me & the poem is awesome. Thank you. The funeral home got Brett's picture posted on their site but still has not gotten the corrections on the missing suvivors. If anyone cares to see the photo go here.

http://www.claybarfuneralhome.com/_mgxroot/page_10732.php?id=686994

Brett looks like a very warm,kind man WH. Again my thoughts and prayers for you,Melanie and Dakota. I will be thinking of you tomorrow. sarasidle

[debbadoo]

Warhorse, my thoughts and prayers are with you and your entire family during your time of grief. Brett was a very handsome young man. May he rest peacefully. :rose:

[Meridian]

:rose::rose::rose:

I saw the tribute that NG gave the other night.

Continued blessings to you and your family.

[MdmLurkaLot]

WH,
I've been reading your posts for years.
Please accept my deepest sympathy for your loss.
You and your family will be in my thoughts today, and I will be praying for strength for each of you to get through it.

[donna]

Warhorse, you and your family are in my prayers and have my deepest sympathy. I will say a prayer at the moment Brett's funeral begins.

May God hold you and your family in the palm of His hand and give you peace.

No words are adequate, I know. I have been where you are now. I hope there is a bright blue sky and warm sunshine for this afternoon.

Donna

:rose::rose::rose: - A rose for Brett, one for you Warhorse, and one for your family.

[wanabegeek]

God Bless You, may he comfort you today. :rose::rose::rose:

[Dunlurken]

I woke up this morning thinking about Warhorse and her family. My "special" candle is lit for Brett.

:rose: RIP Brett, and may his family find comfort in knowing so many people care.

[AJandTam]

Hi Warhorse. Just heard about your son. Sending you prayers and as many hugs as possible. Wish there were words I could say to get you through this , but there are none. Just know that we are here for you..

[ViennaGal]

May God shine upon you today War with the warmth of his and Brett's love. Thinking of you, Dakota and family. :rose:

[ViennaGal]

Please light a candle for War and her family if you are so inclined. Thank you.

http://www.gratefulness.org/candles/candles.cfm?l=eng&gi=Wrhse

[Adalena935]

I am so sorry for your loss. Know that my prayers are with you and your family.

[indie lost]

My deepest sympathy Warhorse,,,,

[WillowInFlight]

Thoughts and prayers with you today War. Sending strength to help you through today. :rose:

[sunbunny]

sending hugs, love and strength to the Church Family on this day...... :rose:

http://msp108.photobucket.com/albums/n19/New2life06/CatOfferingHugs-1.jpg

[wanabegeek]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0xwzItqYmII

:rose:

[BobbysGirl]

Warhorse and Family,

I would like to extend my deepest condolences to you. I am very sorry to just learn the passing of your beloved son, Brett.

You, Melanie and Brett are in my prayers.
May Gods Love continue to shine on all of you. You were Blessed with a wonderful son. And now Brett is Blessed with his Lord. Be strong and know you are loved.

BG

[Noahs ARK]

Please light a candle for War and her family if you are so inclined. Thank you.

http://www.gratefulness.org/candles/candles.cfm?l=eng&gi=Wrhse

Thank you, VG.

Warhorse ~ we're thinking of you today. :rose:

[warhorse46]

Well somehow the strength came to me to coherently speak @ Brett's grave side services. I had a moment when my eyes filled with tears but God gave me the strength to be able to continue to speak. I let the tears flow when I finished & looked out @ the mourners who were all in tears. I could not hold back my tears then. There was another rough time @ the funeral home just before they closed the casket. They told us they would be closing the casket in about 15 minutes if anyone wanted a last moment with Brett. I waited until everyone else had filed past the open casket to say their last good bye. I walked to it, held his hand for a few seconds, stroked his face, leaned over to give him a kiss on the forehead then rested my face against his for a long minute as I whispered my final good bye. When I did that I could hear most of the people, even the men, break out in audible tears. I must say, I thought 3 days of labor to bring him into this world was hard but sending him out of this world was 100 times harder.
Thank each & every one of you for all of your thoughts, gestures & prayers, they have been a comfort to me.

[Noahs ARK]

God Bless you, Warhorse - thank you for the update, we've all been thinking of you. :wub:

[Jayne]

War...you have been on my mind and heart all day. I can only imagine your feelings..as a mom (with an only son..and a single mom)..

I'm a bit of a "youtube" junkie...and when I heard this two days ago, I thought of you...

"Tomorrow never comes"....you lived your life with Brett..just like that - I've learned something very valuable from you - that you don't realize....'we' tend to think we'll outlive our child...mine has a sickeness that may put me in your position (been in a bit of denial about that...I've learned from you) - your strength...wonderful for your family..and thank you from a stranger..

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Lzul5rxd-i8&feature=related

To you all..


Jayne

[sunbunny]

Well somehow the strength came to me to coherently speak @ Brett's grave side services. I had a moment when my eyes filled with tears but God gave me the strength to be able to continue to speak. I let the tears flow when I finished & looked out @ the mourners who were all in tears. I could not hold back my tears then. There was another rough time @ the funeral home just before they closed the casket. They told us they would be closing the casket in about 15 minutes if anyone wanted a last moment with Brett. I waited until everyone else had filed past the open casket to say their last good bye. I walked to it, held his hand for a few seconds, stroked his face, leaned over to give him a kiss on the forehead then rested my face against his for a long minute as I whispered my final good bye. When I did that I could hear most of the people, even the men, break out in audible tears. I must say, I thought 3 days of labor to bring him into this world was hard but sending him out of this world was 100 times harder.
Thank each & every one of you for all of your thoughts, gestures & prayers, they have been a comfort to me.

:crying::crying::crying:

i have no words.....

[Jayne]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0xwzItqYmII

:rose:

beautiful....wonderful tribute

[ViennaGal]

A song for you War. Find some comfort in it. :rose:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jVbkz_3lO3c

[Jayne]

A song for you War. Find some comfort in it. :rose:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jVbkz_3lO3c

OH YES..played it as my Mom was lowered into the ground...that was NOT easy! kneeled at her head...as the casket went down..into the DIRT..that's how we bury us into the dirt..no concrete encasing...

Arms of an Angel..YOU BET! Will be there soon...I hope!

jmo

J

[Hannibal]

to you warhorse...
I thank you for getting me a signed picture of Nancy Grace a few years back..
You have always impressed me as a kind and sincere individual.

I am so sorry....

May your son have peace and may you achieve some measure of comfort in your loss...

:rose:

[FoxySly]

Thank you all for the thoughts & prayers. Brett has completed the circle of life now, his work on earth is done. I was with him when he took his first breath & when he took his last breath.


:rose: R.I.P. Brett :rose:

I don't have the words... Sorry Warhorse :rose:

Sly

~

[Poochie Pie]

I am so very, very sorry to hear of your loss Warhorse... To think that you have been on here every day with your wonderful insight and making so many of us smile while your heart carried such a burden.... You are an awesome person.. May your Son rest in peace, and may you smile through the tears remembering the good times with him... All my love and prayers...

Poochie

[warhorse46]

This is the last song that was played @ Brett's funeral per his request. He said it is his message to his wife, son & mother from beyond the grave.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LniY0pDQGaE

[DebinNv]

This is the last song that was played @ Brett's funeral per his request. He said it is his message to his wife, son & mother from beyond the grave.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LniY0pDQGaE

Wow...that was absolutely beautiful...

Thank you for sharing.

[Spring]

I am so sorry for your loss WH. I will keep your whole family in my thoughts and prayers.

I feel so bad for your dear husband that they left him out of the obit. That is an unacceptable mistake and I hope you make them correct it. These are things we save after our loved ones are gone to pass on to our children and grandchildren. It's important that they are made to get it right.


:rose:

[samsong]

This is the last song that was played @ Brett's funeral per his request. He said it is his message to his wife, son & mother from beyond the grave.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LniY0pDQGaE

That was beautiful and a mirror into his love for his family.

[justaguy]

I am so sorry. all i know of you, donnakay, is of your integrity,kindness, loyalty and fierceness of spirit that you have exhibited to me personally on this board and thru a few email exchanges through the year. i can only assume your son had the same attributes..what a loss for you and yours. nothing sentimental i can say can ease your grief. you are in my heart. jan

[incidentally]

This is the last song that was played @ Brett's funeral per his request. He said it is his message to his wife, son & mother from beyond the grave.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LniY0pDQGaE

Thank you for allowing us to share Brett's song to you, his wife and son. Whenever I listen to this song, I will now think of it as Brett's song.

[ViennaGal]

This is the last song that was played @ Brett's funeral per his request. He said it is his message to his wife, son & mother from beyond the grave.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LniY0pDQGaE

war I listened intently to this and read the lyrics. How very special that he wanted this to play because he will be there at night when any of us seem to grieve the most and to think he knew that this said what he wanted to leave you all with comfort is amazing. A young man that his mother raised just perfectly. :thumbsup: May he rest and be at peace. We will continue to pray for you to rest and find peace in his passing as well. :wub:

[WillowInFlight]

war I listened intently to this and read the lyrics. How very special that he wanted this to play because he will be there at night when any of us seem to grieve the most and to think he knew that this said what he wanted to leave you all with comfort is amazing. A young man that his mother raised just perfectly. :thumbsup: May he rest and be at peace. We will continue to pray for you to rest and find peace in his passing as well. :wub:
I agree, though I have never heard the group or the song before, I am curious how it came about to be written.
I think we all have to remember that death is a journey, not an end. I want to think that the one's we lose will watch over us. And War, I believe that Brett will do that, Brett maybe gone, but his soul is forever.

Cherish the memories and look forward to new ones.

[warhorse46]

I am so sorry for your loss WH. I will keep your whole family in my thoughts and prayers.

I feel so bad for your dear husband that they left him out of the obit. That is an unacceptable mistake and I hope you make them correct it. These are things we save after our loved ones are gone to pass on to our children and grandchildren. It's important that they are made to get it right.


:rose:


They got that corrected on the memorial handouts @ the funeral home.

[warhorse46]

How wonderful that he had the opportunity to plan things like that when you really think about it. Ironic that I just heard that song yesterday when I let my iPod do an auto fill before I left for work. I sure will never listen to it the same, WH. :wub:


Yes, 10 months ago when he was first diagnosed, he started telling us a few things he wanted. Then 2 months ago when he was told the cancer was back & he was terminal he really began expressing his wishes. He picked the type of service he wanted, picked burial rather than cremation, where he wanted to be buried, who was to get what of his possessions. He was not opposed to discussing his coming death & funeral. He questioned me on how he would die.

[watson]

I don't know you at all, but I have to say that your spirit during this time is something to be admired. I don't have the right words either but I can tell that you are someone I would like to know. So sorry for your loss and I hope you find comfort in your memories and through the support of those who care.

[Leanne Weich]

Warhorse, my deepest sympathy and sincere condolences to you, hubby, Brett's wife and son. Whilst I'm sure you feel like you're falling apart right now, you've been the epitome of grace. I'm sure Brett is looking down lovingly with a big smile on his face watching his mama do what he knew she would for him.

RIP Brett.

[Dunlurken]

This is the last song that was played @ Brett's funeral per his request. He said it is his message to his wife, son & mother from beyond the grave.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LniY0pDQGaE


I'm just blown away and speechless.

Thank you Donna for sharing this with us. I hope you're doing okay.

:rose:

[febreze]

comfort you and give you and your family strength durn this time of sorrow.

[My 2 Cents]

This is the last song that was played @ Brett's funeral per his request. He said it is his message to his wife, son & mother from beyond the grave.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LniY0pDQGaE

WOW . . . the words expressed in this song, especially during the chorus, speak volumes. What a wonderful and caring song choice from your son. What an amazing "HUG" from the heavens were Brett is surely watching over YOU, his WIFE and CHILD and ALL his LOVED ONES. Brett was obviously a very caring, loving and thoughtful Father, Husband and Son. . . . and YOU - Warhorse, obviously did a wonderful job as his Mom, while he was here on this Earth these past 38 years.

I think it was Jacqueline Kennedy-Onassis that said; "If you bungle raising your children, I don't think whatever else you do matters very much." . . . Well Warhorse, you obviously did NOT "bungle". I hope that you realize what a wonderful Mother that you have been and in knowing that, it brings you much comfort, joy, pride and peace.

From the chorus:

I-will be watching over you
I-am gonna help you see it through
I-will protect you in the night
I-am smiling next to you...in silent lucidity

[HansieDZ]

This is the last song that was played @ Brett's funeral per his request. He said it is his message to his wife, son & mother from beyond the grave.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LniY0pDQGaE

Such a powerful song....
I'll never listen to it again without thinking of Brett.

He's truly
"a soul set free to fly".

A beautiful tribute to a beautiful life.

[flipflop]

Well somehow the strength came to me to coherently speak @ Brett's grave side services. I had a moment when my eyes filled with tears but God gave me the strength to be able to continue to speak. I let the tears flow when I finished & looked out @ the mourners who were all in tears. I could not hold back my tears then. There was another rough time @ the funeral home just before they closed the casket. They told us they would be closing the casket in about 15 minutes if anyone wanted a last moment with Brett. I waited until everyone else had filed past the open casket to say their last good bye. I walked to it, held his hand for a few seconds, stroked his face, leaned over to give him a kiss on the forehead then rested my face against his for a long minute as I whispered my final good bye. When I did that I could hear most of the people, even the men, break out in audible tears. I must say, I thought 3 days of labor to bring him into this world was hard but sending him out of this world was 100 times harder.
Thank each & every one of you for all of your thoughts, gestures & prayers, they have been a comfort to me.

This post made me cry. Isn't it funny how the internet works....feeling like you know people you have never met?

I have been on the boards for about 3 1/2 years and have read your posts here and there. I silently learned little things about your life and family. I feel like I "know" you.

I just wanted to say how sorry I am about your son. I wish there was something I could do for you. Bless you and Brett's family.

[doctor_J]

I have avoided coming here because of fear. The fear of memories awakened and wounds reopened. I lost a foster son 3 weeks after his 18th birthday. Nothing I say will help but time will make it bearable. So glad you have a husband, daughter-in-law and grandson. What a blessing they are at this time!

Something I've carried in my wallet since my terrible date with grief-----

"Do not allow your grief to be a measure of his worth.....for then your sorrow will know no end." anonymous

[NantAncy]

A Child Loaned
"I'll lend you for a little time
A child of Mine." He said.
"For you to love the while he lives
And mourn for when he's dead.
It may be six or seven year
Or twenty-two or three
But will you, till I call him back
Take care of him for Me?
He'll bring his charms to gladden you
And should his stay be brief,
You'll have his lovely memories
As solace for your grief.
I cannot promise he will stay
Since all from Earth return,
But there are lessons taught down there
I want the child to learn.
I've looked this wide world over
In my search for teacher's true,
And from the throngs that crowd life's lanes,
I have selected you;
Now will you give him all your love,

Nor think the labour vain
Nor hate Me when I come to call
And take him back again?
I fancied that I heard them say,
"Dear Lord, They will be done,
For all the joy Thy child shall bring,
For the risk of grief we'll run.
We'll shelter him with tenderness,
We'll love him while we may,
And for the happiness we've known,
Forever grateful stay.
But should the angels call for him
Much sooner than we planned,
We'll brave the bitter grief that comes
And try to understand."
Anonymous

(((((((((((((((Donnakay))))))))))))))))))

So sorry for your loss, dear friend.

[warhorse46]

The poems are so beautiful & very meaningful to me @ this time, thank you all for posting them. Today has been quiet & I think that is what we needed. Now is the time to start building a new life without Brett's physical being. There would be days that I did not see him physically but we would talk on the phone multiple times. Then there would be some days he would spend hours over here with us. But whether or not he was in my sight I always knew he lived just around the corner & that was such a comfort to me to know he was that close to us.

[Randi~lee]

Dear Warhorse,
I'm a long time lurker here
and I do enjoy reading Your posts
I am so very sorry to read that
Your Son has passed away.
Please know that You and Your Family
are in my thoughts :rose:

[Poochie Pie]

The poems are so beautiful & very meaningful to me @ this time, thank you all for posting them. Today has been quiet & I think that is what we needed. Now is the time to start building a new life without Brett's physical being. There would be days that I did not see him physically but we would talk on the phone multiple times. Then there would be some days he would spend hours over here with us. But whether or not he was in my sight I always knew he lived just around the corner & that was such a comfort to me to know he was that close to us. But he is even closer now, warhorse.... He is in your heart.. He will always be right there with you.. where ever you go.. what ever you do.. He was a part of you.. and you, a part of him..... My thoughts and prayers are with you... :rose:

Poochie

[indie lost]

What a perfect song. I will always think of it as Brett's song as well...

[Daniel Konrath]

So sorry to hear this news Warhorse...........You have always been one of the posters I looked up to and whose opinions I respected,especially when we didn't agree...............

[MiamiNice1]

Thank you all for the thoughts & prayers. Brett has completed the circle of life now, his work on earth is done. I was with him when he took his first breath & when he took his last breath.

Oh, warhorse.....there are no words to express the sorrow I feel, reading this news. Your beautiful, strong words of faith throughout this thread have me sobbing, knowing there can be no greater pain than the loss of your child.

My deepest sympathy, thoughts and prayers to you and your family. :rose:

[angellaw]

This is the last song that was played @ Brett's funeral per his request. He said it is his message to his wife, son & mother from beyond the grave.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LniY0pDQGaE

That was beautiful War, thanks for sharing...what a wonderful lasting message.

RIP Brett

[allaboutfair]

Warhorse, I'm so very sorry to hear about your son. May the love of family and friends bring you strength and my your memories of Brett bring you comfort. God bless you.:rose::rose::rose:

[warhorse46]

Warhorse, I'm so very sorry to hear about your son. May the love of family and friends bring you strength and my your memories of Brett bring you comfort. God bless you.:rose::rose::rose:


Thank you. I do have a lot of memories of Brett store away in my heart.

[aproudmom]

My thoughts and prayers are with you Warhorse :rose:

[aproudmom]

This is the last song that was played @ Brett's funeral per his request. He said it is his message to his wife, son & mother from beyond the grave.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LniY0pDQGaE

thanks for sharing that..may god put his arms around the family at this hard time...

[KaraokeDiva]

I somehow missed this announcement. I am so sorry for your loss Warhorse.

[warhorse46]

Oh my gosh - I am so sorry for your family's loss, Warhorse! And I am sorry for not seeing this earlier. Much, much too young for Brett to pass. I hope that the memories of his youth, his growth, his smiles and his laughter always fill your heart and comfort your thoughts in times of reflection.

How sad to read that his wife and son were not able to be there as he passed through, but I would take much comfort, as a mother, to have been blessed with the opportunity to comfort my own child at such a time as you were given.

Please update us as to how your DIL and Dakota are doing too! Your DIL will need a lot of comfort and guidance after becoming a widow at such a young age and Dakota at 17 is just at the cusp of becoming a man. At least he has his grandfather as a strong, wise male mentor in his life - he will need the male contact, even as he receives the comfort and protection of the females in his family.

Healing light and inner strength to you and your family.

Thank you. Dakota lives in Ok with his mom so we get to see him only once or twice a year. Not nearly enough for me but it is what it is. My dil is hurting but seems to be dealing with it slowly, as we are. We all still have our sad, teary moments. I catch myself thinking I'll call Brett & tell him such & such, then the reality hits.

[warhorse46]

I somehow missed this announcement. I am so sorry for your loss Warhorse.


Thank you.

[Justins Mom]

Warhorse,

Johnny, justin and I offer our deepest sympathies for Bretts passing. You have done so much for him. Know he is smiling down on all of you.

Just to let you know how very sorry we are for your loss.

Those who live in the hearts of others....
Never die.


Luv,
J-Mom

[Caje]

Warhorse I’m very sorry to hear about your son. Your family is in my thoughts and prayers.

[warhorse46]

Thank you Justinsmom & Caje, your words are a balm to me. The wounds are still raw, deep & bleeding.

[Roux]

I don't know how I missed this terrible news, but very belatedly please accept my condolences. In my personal experience time does not heal all wounds, but with faith and the love of the Lord we are able to soldier on. May God continue to give you and your family comfort and strength.

[SwFlorida]

I am so sorry warhorse. I am just reading about this. I am on a semi with DH and just bought a laptop.

RIP Brett

[MaybytheBay]

(I missed this posting Warhorse and just seeing it now)

This world is not conclusion
A sequel stands beyond'
Invisible, as music,
But positive
As sound.

My sincerest sympathy to you.

[Lidia]

Warhorse, I am so sorry and my condolences and prayers are sincerely with you and your family.

[warhorse46]

Thank you for your very kind expressions of sympathy, they are much appreciated. We are still in the very new stages of our grief but I know as time passes the pain will lessen. We have been doing very unpleasant things like changing our wills, changing the beneficiary on our life insurance policies which just keeps the wounds open & bleeding. Brett's spirit has been making itself known. We have a small lamp in our bedroom that has 3 light settings & is a touch lamp. It is sitting in a corner nowhere near a window or curtain. I have one of Brett's cowboy hats that he wore most of the time sitting on it. One night I had the lamp on the low setting, we were lying in bed talking & we started talking about Brett & Melanie. The minute their names were mentioned the lamp bumped up to the high setting. We were @ least 4 feet away from it. DH got up, reset the lamp back on low then got back in bed. We talked for a few minutes then returned to the subject of Brett & Melanie. Again the instant their names were said the lamp bumped to the high setting. A week later he let me know he was here again. The Native Americans have a belief that the ringing of wind chimes are the spirits of the deceased reminding the living to pay respect to those who have gone before them so they give wind chimes to the surviving family. I have a very large, heavy pewter wind chime hanging on a curtain rod in our bedroom. It is hanging in a place where there are no drafts to ring it & besides it is so heavy it would take tropical storm force winds to ring it. Twice now it has rang.

[Poochie Pie]

Thank you for your very kind expressions of sympathy, they are much appreciated. We are still in the very new stages of our grief but I know as time passes the pain will lessen. We have been doing very unpleasant things like changing our wills, changing the beneficiary on our life insurance policies which just keeps the wounds open & bleeding. Brett's spirit has been making itself known. We have a small lamp in our bedroom that has 3 light settings & is a touch lamp. It is sitting in a corner nowhere near a window or curtain. I have one of Brett's cowboy hats that he wore most of the time sitting on it. One night I had the lamp on the low setting, we were lying in bed talking & we started talking about Brett & Melanie. The minute their names were mentioned the lamp bumped up to the high setting. We were @ least 4 feet away from it. DH got up, reset the lamp back on low then got back in bed. We talked for a few minutes then returned to the subject of Brett & Melanie. Again the instant their names were said the lamp bumped to the high setting. A week later he let me know he was here again. The Native Americans have a belief that the ringing of wind chimes are the spirits of the deceased reminding the living to pay respect to those who have gone before them so they give wind chimes to the surviving family. I have a very large, heavy pewter wind chime hanging on a curtain rod in our bedroom. It is hanging in a place where there are no drafts to ring it & besides it is so heavy it would take tropical storm force winds to ring it. Twice now it has rang. Oh wow, warhorse...!! Being a descendant of the Native American Cherokee Tribe, (as I have mentioned before), I am very familiar with the belief re the wind chimes.... May Brett's Spirit continue to soar and may your days be blessed with smiles and laughter when you think of him..

Poochie

[warhorse46]

Oh wow, warhorse...!! Being a descendant of the Native American Cherokee Tribe, (as I have mentioned before), I am very familiar with the belief re the wind chimes.... May Brett's Spirit continue to soar and may your days be blessed with smiles and laughter when you think of him..

Poochie


After I recovered from the momentary shock of the thing ringing for no reason, I found it to be comforting.

[StarShine]

I am so sorry to hear of your loss.

I'm sorry for everything you've been through. It must've been very hard on you. Please accept my sincere condolences and my prayers!!

[KittyMom]

War,
I just found this thread. I don't have words to tell you how sorry I am.

((((hugs))))

[warhorse46]

Thank you both, your words are a comfort to me.

[daniel green]

Warhorse, I am so ashamed that it is only now I see this thread and the heartbreaking news. I'm so, so sorry.

What can we do for you, WH?

[warhorse46]

Warhorse, I am so ashamed that it is only now I see this thread and the heartbreaking news. I'm so, so sorry.

What can we do for you, WH?


Thank you. Everyone's support is a great help to me.

[Karma]

Warhorse,

I am truly sorry for the loss of your son Brett and for seeing this so late.

Words just don't do justice during such a time but what an amazing comfort it must be for Brett to let you know he is with you and your family. And all without words.

Thank you for being who you are....I am sure your son was filled with pride with having you as his mother.


:rose: