Custody resolved in Fisher/Young case.

[Leanne Weich]

I don't believe any sort of learning about Cassidy's situation would "hurt." I just don't think it needs to be mandatory. And, I think there are probably many different ways to help a child accept the unimaginable. I am sure that, guided by her love of Cassidy, Meredith will do just fine.

I think a lot of the rearing of Cassidy will be dependent upon what she's been told to date. What does she know about her mom's death at this point in time? What was she told when her grandfather died? We've had deaths in our family when my granddaughter was between 4 and 5 and my daughter told her those people had been sick, were in pain and had gone to Jesus where they were all better now, happy and could still watch her even though she, my g/daughter, couldn't see them. My g/d thought it was such a cool story she told everyone at kindergarten about it and, over the course of a week or so, her friends told her various stories about death - some of them okay and others not so okay. One kid told her that her loved ones (my g/d's) had been burned in the oven. Needless to say, this was very disturbing. My DD then had to explain cremation, burial and the fact that the body is just the house that the important part of people live in and she was fine with that. I guess another thing that helped is that she has been going to Sunday School for years so had a deep trust in Jesus. She's been going to the cemetary for years with my DD (even before she had a realisation that it wasn't a normal thing) and loves going and putting flowers on her uncle and great grandparents' graves. It hasn't done her any harm - she's a happy, healthy, well adjusted child who is top of her class - she's 7 now.

I have no doubt that if things are handled sensitively, Cassidy will be just fine.

[awareness]

A consent order can be challenged. I'm just curious who is going to do the challenging. Somebody who is really interested in the child's well-being rather than what is best for Jason.

Sarasun, we truly understand how you feel about the matter. That Meredith and Jason were not of their right mind to sign off on the agreement and that the Youngs should and probably will go after custody.

However unless you are Pat Young, Jason's sister or some other close family member - how do you know it will actually be challenged? Because I dont think it will be. Yet you keep posting ad naseum about how its GOING to be challenged.

Some of us feel Jason murdered Michelle and obviously in our opinion, the best place for Cassidy to be is NOT with a slayer.

JMO/IMO

[awareness]

Meredith will be able to rely somewhat on college psych classes she studied. I'm sure she studied child psychology. However, some things are learned from experience and common sense.

Jason would not take his 4-year-old to a cemetery and tell her that her mother was under the ground. That's just common sense, yet he was criticized for that. A parenting class might help Meredith to recall/review what is appropriate/unappropriate for a child. This would include such topics as appropriate dress, food preparation, TV, movies, etc.

As a licensed foster home, I am required to attend work shops in parenting. I learn something every time and share my experiences with others. We learn from each other.


Parents take their children to graves all the time to visit and remember their loved ones. JMO, and nothing wrong with that.

YOU of all people have a licensed foster home? :eek:

JMO/IMO

[Leanne Weich]

The little girl has lost a mother, a greatgrand mother and a grandpa in 2 years time. Its my understanding she was not taken to any services for any of these family members including her mother. What she was told I would have to guess is that they went to heaven to live. I don't have any fear for the child at all. The child is sitting on a gold mine I think she will have the best of care with MF.

I've never seen so many people talk about the money since the WDS was won by Linda. Whether she's sitting on a gold mine or not, she'll have the best of care with MF, imo. MF will not have carte blanche with Cassidy's money and, if she was in this for the monetary gain, I'm darn sure she'd have had a provision for child support put in the custody agreement.

I wouldn't have expected Cassidy to attend any of the funerals you refer to. I personally don't believe a child's place is at any funeral service - you can't protect them from people who may be unable to contain their grief so soon after the death of a someone they loved. However, if a child is brought up believing death is not an awful thing, there is no reason, imo, why they cannot go and put flowers on a grave or attend a memorial event for a deceased loved one.

I'm glad you don't have any fear for Cassidy at all - nor do I.

[BSNBREVARDNC]

The little girl has lost a mother, a greatgrand mother and a grandpa in 2 years time. Its my understanding she was not taken to any services for any of these family members including her mother. What she was told I would have to guess is that they went to heaven to live. I don't have any fear for the child at all. The child is sitting on a gold mine I think she will have the best of care with MF.

I agree about Meredith giving her the best of care. But the "gold mine" does little to balance out the lose she has to live with.

[Wyn]

The little girl has lost a mother, a greatgrand mother and a grandpa in 2 years time. Its my understanding she was not taken to any services for any of these family members including her mother. What she was told I would have to guess is that they went to heaven to live. I don't have any fear for the child at all. The child is sitting on a gold mine I think she will have the best of care with MF.


Too little, too late. Nice try though. :smile:

[alterEgo©]

Yes, a little too late!!

Leanne, its going to be interesting to see if Meredith files for child support. She is entitled.
I would think Cassidy's SS benefits from Michelle's death would xfer to Meredith. I would also think Meredith would be able to draw against the LI proceeds or other monetary assets in Michelle's estate to provide care and support of Cassidy. Since Jason has no income, she wouldn't stand to collect much in support from him.

[BSNBREVARDNC]

I would think Cassidy's SS benefits from Michelle's death would xfer to Meredith. I would also think Meredith would be able to draw against the LI proceeds or other monetary assets in Michelle's estate to provide care and support of Cassidy. Since Jason has no income, she wouldn't stand to collect much in support from him.

You can't get blood from a turnip. I noticed that is was not addressed in the agreement so there will probably not be any child support being paid. I doubt it was an issue any way. (IMO)

[kingbuff]

I hope Meredith will be able to quit her job by August and devote full time to Cassie. Maybe the Fishers will be able to get the insurance money and use that to support Cassie and Meredith. Maybe the insurance money has already been paid to the estate and Linda has used some of that for attorney fees and travel expenses. Anybody heard anything?

[kingbuff]

If the Life $ has been paid, is obviously tied up in a trust for Cassidy. Are you jealous Linda has her own money and the slayer is destitute ?

Am I jealous of Linda? I think not. Trust money? It should be used as needed, in my opinion. Your President thinks so, too: get out spend your money, he says. It's raining now so spend it now, he says.

[kingbuff]

If the Life $ has been paid, is obviously tied up in a trust for Cassidy. Are you jealous Linda has her own money and the slayer is destitute ?

BTW, Cassidy will be in school full time, so that leaves a lot of time for Meredith to work if she chooses. Also, Linda will be available in the afternoons for her grand daughter.

BTW, you think Linda is moving to Raleigh? Interesting.

[kingbuff]

Not sure why ?
She is a fine, upstanding woman with very strong faith and morals.

Nope, she can't use the $ for her own benefit, as you are suggesting.
There is a 3rd party trustee that has fiduciary responsibility.

So....maybe she should be jealous of me ? I am rich in faith and morals, but not money. And where did this 3rd party trustee come from?

[Barbara2]

Survivor benefits are paid to families. You think SS is paid directly to CY and she endorses the check each month? GMAB

Yes they are, and as Cassidy's primary caregiver, the benefits will be paid to Meredith for the support of Cassidy. IMO